Putting Your Heart First: Why Self-Care Matters

putting your heart first: why self care matters

putting your heart first: why self care matters

Warning: This post is about as raw / honest as it gets. 

A week ago, I was having a conversation with someone I’d just met.

After one minute, I knew the universe put her in my life for a reason. Kindred spirits, I like to say. So naturally, as I do with anyone I trust and feel connected to immediately, I start sharing my entire life story with her. Including how I’d let stress, work, and life get the better of me in January 2016, which led to me experiencing shingles for the first time.

“What! I’ve never heard of anyone under 50 getting shingles!” was her reaction.

Yeah. That’s the reaction I ALWAYS get.

But let me tell you. Shingles? Not just for the 50 and over crowd.

When it happened last year, I wasn’t quick to talk about it. After all, I was embarrassed and kind of felt like some weirdo. Healthy, energetic 32 year old on the outside, immune system of a 90 year old that gets shingles on the inside?

Why me?

So I did some serious reflection of the events leading up to said outbreak. First, I’d been working A LOT. And not just for the past few weeks, try the last six years. I’d also put unrealistic expectations on myself over the 2016 holidays. Trying to make 100 peanut butter balls, win the ugly sweater competition, buy and perfectly wrap dozens of gifts, mail over a hundred handwritten Christmas cards.

Yeah. That ^ is important to note. I’m not just an overachiever when it comes to my career.

And lastly.

I love blogging. I never want to not blog. But it’s A LOT of work too. When I could spend evenings practicing self-care, I’m often found blogging.

Now do you see why I ended up in doctor’s office, hearing the words “Yeah, you have shingles.” from a doctor in January 2016? And I was lucky. My rash was tiny compared to the images one sees when they Google shingles. My fellow hypochondriacs know what I’m talkin about! But the nerve pain? It was awful. And nothing helped.

I’m even quoted in a article about it. You know you’re a publicist when you’re pitching your own shingles experience to health writers.  Also, read at your own risk. It’s the stuff nightmares are made of.

So why am I telling you all of this? Because I know first hand what can happen to your body when you forget to slow down. When you ignore the signs to take a vacation or even a self-care day.

It’s exactly why, when I wrote my 2017 intentions, I set new goals for myself. It wasn’t my usual – get promoted, get a raise, speak at ALL the conferences.

I set goals to meditate. To attend a wellness retreat with other women. To have longer and deeper conversations with soul sisters.

I set a overarching goal to create a lifestyle for myself that allowed me to live more, breathe more, love more. A lifestyle that would allow me to do more of what I love.

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That kindred spirit I mentioned earlier? It was Angela Harris, the big hearted and kind super hero and founder of Work of Heartan organization that creates events and products to inspire, motivate and spread positivity, while encouraging self care, self awareness and kindness to yourself and others.

On March 25th, here in Moncton, New Brunswick, Angela and the Work of Heart team are holding their first event: Work of Heart -a Day for You. This day long retreat is being held at Royal Oaks Golf & Country Club and will feature a number of creative and inspiring speakers, including breakout sessions and guided meditation and reflection.

We will laugh, we will cry, we will spread good vibes.

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I am so incredibly honored to be a Brand Ambassador for the event and I would LOVE to see you there. Which is exactly why I’m giving YOU – my beautiful mermaid tribe – your very own promo code to save $10 on your ticket.

Just go here and use promo code: LOVE

It’s that easy.

I can’t wait to see you there. And if you’re unable to attend, please share this event with someone you love or someone who could use a little reminder to slow down.

It’s time to put our hearts first ❤️

And make sure to like Work of Heart on Facebook and Instagram!  Each like = mermaid luck heading your way ✨


  • chloevsworld
    March 8, 2017 at 5:09 pm

    You write so well- I got goosebumps reading this! The retreat sounds fab!xx

  • Alison Doherty
    March 9, 2017 at 10:53 am

    Self Care is so important. Thanks for writing about this in such an honest and empathic way. Really good reminders here!

    • crystalrichard
      March 9, 2017 at 10:58 am

      Thank you for leaving a note – I’m so happy it’s resonating with others :)

  • Ange Harris
    April 8, 2017 at 6:49 pm

    I love this post so much. All of the raw emotion. And all of the authenticity. But most of all that you recognize just how truly important it is to take care of yourself. I also love that I’m the kindred spirit you found and I hope you know that I whole heartedly feel the same. Xo


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